I’ve decided to kick off the month of forgiveness by focusing on Self-Compassion.
Self-Compassion is a starting place for so many different things. Self-Compassion let’s you fail. It’s the voice that says, “Hey, you should try that new thing.” and tells that “It’s okay, everyone was a beginner once!” It encourages you to work for what you want, and cheers for your successes but respectfully acknowledges those times you don’t measure up.
Self-Compassion isn’t Self-Esteem. Self-Esteem is an earned thing. It’s the final product, when you work hard and overcome obstacles and start producing real quality work or achieving those goals you set out to do. It says “Hey! Look what I’ve done!” and gives you the confidence to share those successes and push forward.
Self-Compassion knows that sometimes your best just isn’t good enough for the thing you want. It also knows that not getting the thing you worked for does not make you any less of an awesome, interesting and amazing human being. Self-Compassion encourages you to try again, try a different approach or pursue a new avenue.
Self-Compassion also allows you to practise compassion. When you recognize yourself as a valuable and worthy person, independent of the things we have, the choices we have previously made, or what we decide is “successful”, we give ourselves permission to try so many things, and work to succeed at the things we wish to pursue in our lives and permission to move past the things that we have done wrong to pursue better things. We have all failed. We have all done things we are not proud of, but those choices do not define who you are or who you become unless you want them to.
When we learn to recognize ourselves as valuable, forgive ourselves for the things we have done in the past and recognize our ability to do better in the future we afford that same type of compassion to others. We free ourselves from exhausting mental battles and we allow others to do the same.
This post is a link up with Amanda @ Running With Spoons